Finding a partner can be tough sometimes. It’s one thing to fall in love, it is another to find someone compatible enough to build a life with. No matter how much you love your space as a single person, no one wants to be alone forever. you deserve that special person you can call yours.
Although as individuals, we all have unique personalities that shape our behavior, thoughts, and emotions. However, there are certain traits that can help us become better versions of ourselves, improve our relationships, and succeed in various aspects of life. If you’re still single, here are five personality important traits you should start developing:
WHY DO PEOPLE STAY SINGLE?
Regardless of the fact that pop culture has made being single look like a plague, you should know that some people actually enjoy being single.
As beautiful as a relationship sounds, it can also be a limitation too. “Ehn, well, that happens if you are with the wrong person.” I hear you, but you will also agree that you have made some sacrifices in your past relationships that if you had your way, you wouldn’t have.
Love, right? Likewise, single people also have reasons. The next time you run into a single person, instead of bugging them with questions about why they are not in a relationship, understand why they are single.
Some of the reasons could be a personal choice, past trauma or Emotional Baggage, or even difficulty finding a compatible partner.
5 IMPORTANT TRAITS SINGLE PEOPLE SHOULD HAVE
Whatever your reason for being single, it is hard to deny the fact that we need each other. The only problem now is, after being alone for so long, you barely want to put energy into being in a new relationship.
Instead of grumbling about how long talking stages take, or how the dating pool has gotten messier since you left. Being optimistic, and doing the right things can still land you that special someone. Believe it or not, there are still good people out there, and maybe because you give up too easily, you miss out on them.
Let me help you avoid that. I was able to outline in this blog post the 5 most important traits you’ll need to get back on the horse again.
1. Master Self-Awareness:
The first thing you need is self-awareness; The ability to understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors and how they affect your life.
This is the foundation for personal growth and development. When you master self-awareness, you can identify your strengths and weaknesses, recognize your biases and beliefs, and understand how your actions impact others.
A good example can be apologizing for being unavailable for a long while when you were in the middle of a stranger who was trying to know you better, apologizing because you know how painful it is to be left unread, or even the way you turn the advances of an admirer you don’t like.
To develop self-awareness, you need to, first of all, know yourself well because just like the saying goes, before you can love someone, you have to first learn to love yourself. Or, in this case, know yourself.
2. Show Empathy:
Slightly similar to the first trait is empathy. You see, when looking for someone to love, you should realize that you’re not the only one looking.
The other person, too, is looking for someone to love. Your ability to understand and share the feelings of others is a key component that can help you build a strong relationship with others. Think about it like this, you are making the job easier so you both can know each other. Empathy is a win-win when you think about it.
When you practice empathy, you can connect with others on a deeper level, communicate effectively, and show compassion. So, let’s assume you’re in the talking stage. Instead of getting pissed at the disgusting first-hand conversation starters and putting the person off immediately, put yourself in the other person’s shoes. He/she must have been scared to death about what to say first when sliding into your DM.
Perfection is a scam; a rough start doesn’t mean things can’t end smoothly. Listen sincerely to others, and practice kindness and compassion. This makes you a nice person, and even if you both don’t hit it off, a good friendship might be born.
3. Being Hopeful:
I don’t necessarily believe that hope is a strategy, but exhibiting a little resilience is crucial to help you navigate the ups and downs of the dating world.
Don’t let one bad experience tear you down and make you give up on ever finding love. Like I said earlier, they are good people out there looking for you. So, don’t lose hope.
Learn from your mistakes, and keep moving forward. Practice positive self-talk, and build a support system of friends and family (Especially the ones who don’t put pressure on you.)
4. Be An Accountable Person:
I hope you aren’t one of those people who want a perfect partner when they aren’t perfect themselves. It’s even worse when you don’t realize nobody is perfect.
Telling the truth to someone with such delusions is difficult. If you’ve left every relationship thinking the other person was at fault, you might be the problem.
Accountability is taking responsibility for your actions and decisions. It helps you earn respect and trust of others. When you’re accountable, you acknowledge your mistakes, apologize when necessary, and make amends.
You can’t expect a partner to go the extra mile when you can’t even do the barest minimum. These signs show, and when it glows enough to be a red flag, people take off. Being accountable will earn you the respect of your suitors.
5. Be Interesting:
Remember the extra effort I was talking about? Here’s a good place for you to bring it out your magic hat.
When you are curious about knowing the other person, it makes the conversation interesting.
Now, there is a big misconception that the guy is one to do all the work when it comes to wooing the lady, but that’s a lie. You forget he is human too.
Who doesn’t love attention? You can ask questions, try new things, and stay open-minded to different perspectives and experiences. The important thing is, you should try to show genuine interest in the other person instead of being passive. It has a way of making you memorable
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