I dare you to bring out your phone. Let’s conduct a survey.
There are two types of people on your contact list; The ones that help you when you’re in need, and the ones that always reach out to you with a need.
You can’t deny the fact that in one way or the other, you’ve been both at some point. You either came through for someone in need, or you’ve billed someone.
A closed mouth is a closed destiny after all…
To be honest, debit alerts are painful to see. Especially when you know you won’t benefit from what you’re about to spend.
A wise man once said, one of the hardest things in life is to debit yourself to credit another person. Do you agree?
Nowadays, we make enemies because we refuse to indulge the entitled. People who just feel it’s their right to get your money whenever they please.
These people derive pleasure in making unsolicited requests.
You can post a pretty picture to motivate yourself while secretly praying in your heart that God should answer the ‘urgent’ request you dropped on his table only to see a DM that says…
“See as you fresh, you just dey enjoy only you. Send me something make I manage na.”
Those guys are called the billers. Instead of changing the settings of your read receipts, this is what you should do.
What is “Billing?”
Imagine stopping by a fastfood restaurant to have lunch after what seems to be a busy day at work. Then, after buying what you need, you try leaving and the security man at the exit is asking you, “Anything for the boys?”
What about when you go to the bank? Maybe you decide to deposit some cash into your bank account. It could be from the office, but nobody needs to know.
All that matters is that you walked into a bank to make a deposit and someone is asking you to “show love” when you walk back to your car.
Should I talk about the mall? What about your DMs? If you’ve been in any of this situations, where someone is making constant financial requests or demands, you’ve been “Billed”
How To Avoid Constant Billing.
Learning the 3 ways to Avoid Constant Billing doesn’t now mean you should be uptight to your friends and family who come to you with a need.
No, that’s not the point. However, when it becomes so constant it begins to feel like this person is entitled to your money, then you have a problem.
Valentines is around the corner. A particular gender has started the publicity, they want gifts. The anticipation of what they will receive is louder than what they plan to give.
Is that one not billing too? They’ve used love to blind you; Finished man. Anyway, here are 3 ways you can avoid constant billing.
1. Establish Clear Financial Boundaries:
If it hurts to say, “I cannot do this because it was not in my plans” How about clearly communicating your financial limits to those around you.
Set expectations by explaining what you can and cannot afford. That way, it won’t look like you always have spare cash stored up for people in need.
2. Offer Alternative Support:
Instead of providing direct financial assistance, consider offering alternative forms of support.
Assist with loans, give small tasks that they can earn from, or even support skill development. This empowers others to improve their financial situations independently.
That loan, sha. Be careful…
3. Diplomatically Decline Requests:
Learn to say no. No one will kill you if you say NO. if you are scared of them talking behind you, guess what?
They’ll still talk about you when you start looking for help from them. You can keep a percentage of your income you give out, and when it’s done, otilo.
Before the giver becomes a beggar, let’s learn how to manage ourselves.
